Bereavement & Poems



Grief is expressed in many ways, so there is no set path for you to follow to come to terms with the death of a pet. It is important to allow yourself time to grieve and you should never feel guilty, ashamed or embarrassed about being upset. Grief is a natural process.

After the death of a pet you may feel a number of emotions, and grief is commonly known to have five stages; denial and shock, anger and frustration, depression, and then finally acceptance. You may also feel loneliness and guilt too.

Most importantly, remember that you are not alone. Your vet, friends and family will be there to support you and offer advice. Surround yourself with people that understand your loss.

Never be too proud to seek professional advice to help you cope with your pain. There are also a number of books available and support services, such as the Pet Bereavement Service.

Pets may not be with us forever, but the treasured memories you make with them are.


Many pet owners form strong, long-lasting bonds with their pets and so it is completely natural to be overcome by grief and sadness upon the loss of a companion.

Pets offer us unconditional love, affection, joy and companionship and many of us are unprepared for the great feelings of loss and loneliness when a pet passes away.

Understanding the process of losing a companion can make it easier to cope with, and I can offer you the time to talk things through whilst making the arrangements for your pet's individual cremation.


Children can be deeply affected by the loss of a pet and on some occasions it will be the first time they have experienced bereavement.

Young children may have a number of questions about death, so it is important to allow them to talk about their feelings and answer their questions as best you can. Depending on your child's age, the language you use can be very important; using phrases such as 'put to sleep' can be confusing for young children. Use straightforward words, although it may be hard to say, using the word 'died' is simple to understand.

For some children, it can help to draw pictures of their pet, write a poem or create a memory box of photos and toys. These can help children to celebrate their pet's life rather than focus on the finality of death.

If your pet is ill and unlikely to recover, it is recommended to discuss this with children to allow them time to prepare for the loss, ask any questions and give them time to say goodbye. In some instances, a child may not have been able to say goodbye to their pet, so you may want to think about holding a celebration of life ceremony at home to help your child accept their pet's death - such as allowing your child to write a message to their pet and tying it to a helium-filled balloon for it to float off into the sky.

If you are choosing to bury your pet at home, allow children to be a part of this, such as creating a grave marker, planting a remembrance tree or flower, or even helping to dig the pet's resting place. If you would prefer cremation, it may help children to choose where to scatter the ashes, or they may opt to keep the ashes in a special place. Whichever option you choose, it is important to take your child's wishes into account too.

Most importantly, don't stop your children from talking about their pet or expressing their emotions. Try to help them to focus on the good memories they shared together and the special place they hold in their hearts.

Advice and help is available from

The Pet Charity at

The Blue Cross at with a support line open 8.30am - 8.30pm every day 0800 096 6606



We wish we could have told you,
in words you'd understand,
We wanted you to stay with us.
This wasn't what we'd planned.

We wish somehow to tell you,
How empty we now feel.
A part of us went with you,
A part that time can't heal.

We wish we'd once more hear you,
in your softly, rumbling purr,
to hold you on our laps again
and stroke your golden fur.

We wish we had you back again,
to fill this empty space.
But one day we'll be together
in a far, far better place.


I lost a treasured friend today
The little dog who used to lay
Her gentle head upon my knee
And shared her silent thoughts with me.

She'll come no longer to my call
Retrieve no more her favourite ball
A voice far greater than my own
Has called her to his golden throne.

Although my eyes are filled with tears
I thank him for the happy years
He let her spend down here with me
And for her love and loyalty.


If I had known that on that day our time was near the end
I would have done things differently, my forever friend.
I would have stayed right next to you deep into the night
but I thought I'd see you in the early morning light.

And so I said "Good night" to you as I walked in through the door
never thinking of the time when I'd see you no more.
But if I had known that on that day our time was at the end
I would have done things so differently, my forever friend.


A smudgy nose mark on the window pane,
Your squeaky toys upon the floor,
The comfy sofa where you used to lie,
But you are there no more.

Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
And muted echoes sound,
Of course I will always remember,
It's where your paws would joyously bound.

A bark is heard amongst the trees,
And up beyond the hill,
Then I remember it can't be yours,
Your beautiful voice is still.

But I'll take that vacant spot of couch,
And empty muted hall,
And lay them with the absent voice,
And unused dish next to the wall.

I'll wrap these treasured memories in a blanket of my love,
And keep them for my best friend Percy until we meet above.


We have a secret, you and I
that no one else shall know,
for who but I can see you lie
each night in fire glow?

And who but I can reach my hand
before we go to bed
and feel the living warmth of you
and touch your silken head?

And only I walk woodland paths
and see ahead of me,
your small form racing with the wind
so young again, and free.

And only I can see you swim
in every brook I pass
and when I call, no one but I
can see the bending grass.


From the silence of your pain I heard my name
and on the wings of light I have come
to see the sadness in your eyes
that cry without tears

Can you see me, I am here
I will always be near you
to calm your shattered heart
and to make you smile at the memories

Do you feel me, perhaps a soft brush of fur
You ache to believe it's real
but you are afraid to hope
You brush away a strand of hair
But it was I, whispering.....

I am only here for but a moment
The silver thread gently quivers
I will leave behind my love in a dream
When you awaken, and without really knowing why

Your heart will know at last
That it is all right, for now
to say good-bye


She arrived in spring
Like a fresh gentle breeze
She was injured and starving
Curious and hopeful
A loving, trusting feline...
She was strong and unflinching
Vivacious and lively
She was radiant...she was youthful
She was ours...
We shared her raptures and sorrows
Her ups and her downs
Her life...
Now it is spring again..
But this time she has to go
Her spirit and essence will always live through us
She will eternally remain within us...
She will forever feel our love....


Hold on to what is good
even if it is a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe
even when it is a tree
that stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do
even when it is a long way from here.
Hold on to life
even when it is easier letting go.
Hold on to my hand
even when I have gone away from you.


I give you this one thought to keep
I am with you still - I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still -
In each new dawn.


Why are there so many songs about rainbows
and what's on the other side?
Rainbows are visions, but only illusions,
and rainbows have nothing to hide.
So we've been told and some choose to believe it.
I know they're wrong, wait and see.
Someday we'll find it, the rainbow connection.
The lovers, the dreamers and me.

Who said that every wish would be heard
and answered when wished on the morning star?
Somebody thought of that and someone believed it.
Look what it's done so far.
What's so amazing that keeps us star gazing
and what do we think we might see?
Someday we'll find it, the rainbow connection.
The lovers, the dreamers and me.

All of us under its spell. We know that it's probably magic.

Have you been half asleep and have you heard voices?
I've heard them calling my name.
Is this the sweet sound that called the young sailors.
The voice might be one and the same.
I've heard it too many times to ignore it.
It's something that I'm supposed to be.
Someday we'll find it, the rainbow connection.
The lovers, the dreamers and me.


Remember Me Mummy Jayne, Raouf, Marysia & Stephan, Tom & Gail,
Remember Me always, but do not grieve for me too long
I have Loved you just as much as you all Loved Me, right from me being a tiny weeney puppie to growing to the grand old age of nearly 15 years.
I never ever wanted this day to come and cause you so much pain.
Peace for me is here at last, free from pain and eyes at rest.
Please, after your time of grieving for me, make room in your Heart for another great Staff.
You are so kind Mummy Jayne that you should always have a Companion like Me to Love and to Cherish.
Your kind and gentle Heart should not be wasted on my memory for too long.
Give your outstanding Loving, Caring and Compassionate Care as you did to Me, to another Staffie.
I know your new doggie friend ( whenever that time might be ) will never ever take my place,
because we had something very special going on between us that no other Dog can replace.
It will never be quite the same I know, but a new devoted and Loving Companion will in time,
become very special in their own way, just as I did Mummy Jayne to you.
You all Loved Me so very much and I felt that and I knew that ( hence all my doggie licks for you )
and waiting at the door for you if you had been out.
I was totally devoted to you Mummy Jayne and I Loved you too.
My Spirit will always be with You, Raouf, Marysia -Stephan, Tom - Gail and all the rest of my
beautiful loving family that I shared and had. No matter how deep my sleep, my grateful Heart will always keep you Close to me.
I will be back Home on Monday just in another format so you can take me wherever you like in Home once more so I can be always by your side.
So for now Mummy Jayne, Please don't cry too much, as you'll be coming to Collect Me on Monday. Goodnight now, sleep tight and cuddle My ' Jimmy Giraffe OR Tyson ' for tonight to hold me close to your broken Heart.....

Lots of Shady Kisses Mummy Jayne just for you .... I'm just sleeping deeply for now
but please remember one day we will be together again.... XxxxxX